Holding Boundaries and Letting Go Of Other People’s Tasks
What does it mean to let go of other people’s tasks? This is one of the core questions in The Courage To Be Disliked, which…
Can We Grow Without Grimacing At Our Past Self?
“If you’re not grimacing every time you look at old work, then you aren’t growing.” I was haunted by this tweet from 2021. It suggests…
Where Do You Get Your Sense of Self? (with Chris Niebauer)
Where is the self when no one is thinking about it?That was the central thread running through my conversation with Chris Niebauer, PhD, who is…
Interpersonal Relationship Problems and The Social Shadow
Humans are complex social beings. We are wired for connection and belonging to survive. Yet our subjective consciousness and individuality present all manner of interpersonal…
Is Survivorship Bias Making You Feel Bad About Yourself?
Survivorship bias occurs when we only focus on successful outcomes and ignore those things that didn’t make it “to the other side”. It can lead…
The Deeper Benefits of Slowing Down
It isn’t easy to keep up with the pace of life. It can feel like time is running away, and there’s always more to do…
Does The Past Determine Our Future, or Can We Change It?
What factors determine who we become and how our lives turn out? Does the past dictate the future? What does it mean to choose happiness?…
How HSPs Can Handle Conflict Without Losing Themselves (with Konrad Benjamin)
You don’t need me to tell you we live in divided times. This is especially true when it comes to beliefs, ideas, and opinions about…
Serenity is Not a Destination
Serenity is not a destination we are trying to reach. If we can’t find it here, we are unlikely to find it “there”. Are you…
Why Is Self-Compassion So Hard to Practice?
Self-compassion can be difficult. Many of us have learned to be much harder on ourselves than anyone else. We judge, blame, label, demand, punish, and…