Anticipatory Grief is the feeling of loss for something or someone that is still there. It’s a phenomenon most often experienced in anticipation of the impending death of a loved one. However, it can be experienced in all sorts of ways and about all manner of things. Even pets and holidays!
Until 2012 I listened to Kermode and Mayo‘s film review podcast every week without fail. I was definitely a keen and dedicated member of the Church of Wittertainment. But one day I stepped away from it and haven’t really listened since.
Why? Did they say something offensive or slag off one of my favourite films?
Well, not exactly. Quite the opposite in fact. A huge wave of anticipatory grief had swept over me and I couldn’t stand the thought that one day it would end. That’s right, I stopped listening to my favourite podcast because I anticipated the horrible thought that, low and behold, it would finish. Someday…it’s six years later and the podcast is still going.
This is a bit of a trivial example of anticipatory grief, but it goes to show the impact it can have on us!