Resources to inspire, equip, and encourage gentle rebels, deep thinkers, and highly sensitive people
Confidence
Confidence is about knowing we will be okay even when things don't go to plan.
We often treat confidence as something to conjure up through sheer willpower—"fake it ’til you make it." But deep confidence isn’t a performance. It’s what grows when we find small pockets of safety to trust.
In The Haven, we don’t consider confidence a personality trait you’re born with (or without). It’s the gradual accumulation of evidence that we can survive missteps—evidence gathered through small, repeated experiments in trusting ourselves, others, and the world around us.
This is especially vital for a highly sensitive nervous system that picks up on raised eyebrows and subtle tonal shifts. We need more than mindset hacks. This isn’t about requiring a perfect safety net to begin—it’s about identifying the sources of safety already around us, however fragile, and learning to lean and build on them.
Confidence Archive
Explore the archive of "Confidence" resources. You will find links to all posts below.
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Parts of Me Really (Don’t) Want To
There’s part of me that wants to stay and part of me that wants to go.Something in me loves to play, and something in me…
Do You Ever Feel Guilty For Taking Up Space?
A recent Photoyoga exercise sparked a fascinating Haven discussion about taking up space in the world and how uncomfortable some of us find it at…
The Problem With Asking “What Could I Have Done Differently?”
“What could I have done differently?” is a classic coaching question. It can give rise to awareness, encourage learning, and connect with the fact that…
Book Club | The Courage To Be Disliked (Kishimi and Koga)
We recently finished reading The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness by Kishimi and Koga in…
Do You Want To Be More Spontaneous?
Are you spontaneous? Can you go with the flow when plans change or if something catches your attention and invites you to follow it? In…
We Develop and Grow When It Feels Safe To Fail
Confidence grows when we feel safe to fail and make mistakes. Sports people typically attribute confidence to believing they can beat anyone. So I was…
Can We Grow Without Grimacing At Our Past Self?
“If you’re not grimacing every time you look at old work, then you aren’t growing.” I was haunted by this tweet from 2021. It suggests…
Is Survivorship Bias Making You Feel Bad About Yourself?
Survivorship bias occurs when we only focus on successful outcomes and ignore those things that didn’t make it “to the other side”. It can lead…
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