Resources to inspire, equip, and encourage gentle rebels, deep thinkers, and highly sensitive people
Confidence
Confidence is about knowing we will be okay even when things don't go to plan.
We often treat confidence as something to conjure up through sheer willpower—"fake it ’til you make it." But deep confidence isn’t a performance. It’s what grows when we find small pockets of safety to trust.
In The Haven, we don’t consider confidence a personality trait you’re born with (or without). It’s the gradual accumulation of evidence that we can survive missteps—evidence gathered through small, repeated experiments in trusting ourselves, others, and the world around us.
This is especially vital for a highly sensitive nervous system that picks up on raised eyebrows and subtle tonal shifts. We need more than mindset hacks. This isn’t about requiring a perfect safety net to begin—it’s about identifying the sources of safety already around us, however fragile, and learning to lean and build on them.
Confidence Archive
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Why Is It So Hard to Say “I Don’t Know”?
“How do you tend to respond when you do not know?” We had this question in our Journal Circle a couple of weeks ago. It’s…
Grow Creative Confidence Using Sketching (with Sam Marshall)
Would you like to develop more creative confidence? Have you ever embarked on, or considered, a sketching practice? In this episode of The Gentle Rebel…
The Urge to Explain, Justify, and Tidy Feelings
When do you sense the urge to explain, justify, or tidy what you feel? This was our question for the week, and in this week’s…
You Are The Bridge (Sound Anchor)
This sound anchor was inspired by a Fireside Spiral, where we explored the felt pressure to force understanding and progress. The image of the bridge…
Starting again along a familiar path
Have you ever found yourself missing something you once loved, but unsure of how to reconnect with it? Perhaps it has been months or even…
Afraid of Giving Credit? The Vicious Cycle of Status Insecurity
People may fear giving credit because they worry it will diminish their status. But research shows the opposite is true: sharing credit actually boosts respect…
Why You Don’t Need to “Come Out of Your Shell”
Have you ever been told to come out of your shell? It’s a phrase many of us have heard, especially if we’re introverted, sensitive, or…
Dealing With Comparisonitis and Shame Attacks (with Val Nelson)
Have you ever been derailed by a shame attack? Shame can sweep through, telling us we are not worthy, acceptable, or enough. It can be…
