the harbour
Pause, get your bearings, and meet the next moment on your terms
The Haven is a safe landing spot when the world (or some part of life) feels like a lot to hold right now.
You might have found your way here in a moment of intensity. Maybe you’re overstimulated, disoriented, or grasping for some solid ground.
If you can, I invite you to pause for just a moment before making any reactive or impulsive decisions.
I know it’s hard when the nervous system is activated. Especially when the internal alarm says, “Don’t think, just do something… anything!” But maybe you don’t need to figure everything out right now.
Before throwing money and energy at quick fixes or magic bullet answers, take a breath. Lift your head. Step back from the urgency. Let the perspective soften so you can make choices that align with your bigger picture.
You probably have more time than it feels like. The best thing to do is stop, breathe, and take a fresh look at the path ahead.
That’s what this page is for.
The Harbour is here for the moments when you...
Can’t focus clearly because your thoughts are crowding you.
Sense you’re drifting away from where you want to be (without any quick way back).
Long to control or change things beyond your reach.
Feel a creeping resignation and hopelessness leading you to give up.
Know you need something different, but don’t know what.
Instead of trying to figure it all out or “fix” the situation, we begin by slowing down and meeting the moment with gentleness—a firm back and a soft front. The aim is simply to find a safe and solid place to plant your feet before taking your next step.
It doesn’t need to take long. Just a moment to invite stillness into the nervous system—before making any decisions you might later regret.
Harbour Anchors
The Harbour is an open space within The Haven—a place to regulate your nervous system, settle your energy, and begin again.
You’re welcome to return and use the tools below whenever you need.
I made this narrative soundscape to help you slow down and connect with safety in your nervous system. It's for moments when everything feels urgent and the temptation to react from a state of frenzy is high.
Use these three anchoring questions to bring you back to yourself and find firm ground beneath your feet.
What do I need right now?
What am I letting go?
What is changing?
You don't need perfect answers. Allow yourself to respond honestly and in full acknowledgement of the situation as it is (not as you wish it was).
I produced this narrative soundscape to help you reestablish some connection in your nervous system. It is specifically for times in life when it feels like you've drifted into a state of numbness and disconnection.
Get a Grip (eBook and Video)
Get a Grip is a reflective eBook about the paradox that sometimes the tighter we hold on, the more we lose our sense of connection to ourselves, to others, and to what truly matters. I wrote this book during a time when I was navigating personal rupture and learning to live from the inside out rather than being driven by control, certainty, or performance.
It's not a how-to manual, but a gentle companion for those moments when life feels overwhelming or unsteady. If you’re feeling stressed, numb, or disconnected, this book might offer a different kind of support through metaphors, stories, and ideas that invite you to loosen your grip, reconnect with your natural rhythms, and rediscover the steady ground beneath your feet.
A Spotify Playlist
This is a Spotify playlist with some of my favourite instrumental tracks for calming my nervous system and connecting with hope and possibility.
Are you looking for a space to reconnect with what matters most to you? Do you long to be alongside others who truly get it—where co-regulation happens naturally, just by being together?
If so, I’d be delighted to welcome you home.
There’s no need to rush your decision. And if you choose to join us, you’re free to cancel—and return—whenever you need.