How Cold Bucket Criticism Extinguishes Joy and Creativity (Sound Anchor)
In her book, You Don’t Owe Anyone; Caroline Garnet-McGraw tells the story of a “Cold Bucket Experience” when she had just finished her first dance…
How Slowing Down Can Help Us Procrastinate Less
I was recently asked how I distinguish between slowness and procrastination. It got me thinking. While procrastinating can cause important stuff to stagnate, maybe slowing…
Do You Want To Be More Spontaneous?
Are you spontaneous? Can you go with the flow when plans change or if something catches your attention and invites you to follow it? In…
We Develop and Grow When It Feels Safe To Fail
Confidence grows when we feel safe to fail and make mistakes. Sports people typically attribute confidence to believing they can beat anyone. So I was…
Holding Boundaries and Letting Go Of Other People’s Tasks
What does it mean to let go of other people’s tasks? This is one of the core questions in The Courage To Be Disliked, which…
Can We Grow Without Grimacing At Our Past Self?
“If you’re not grimacing every time you look at old work, then you aren’t growing.” I was haunted by this tweet from 2021. It suggests…
Where Do You Get Your Sense of Self? (with Chris Niebauer)
Where is the self when no one is thinking about it?That was the central thread running through my conversation with Chris Niebauer, PhD, who is…
Interpersonal Relationship Problems and The Social Shadow
Humans are complex social beings. We are wired for connection and belonging to survive. Yet our subjective consciousness and individuality present all manner of interpersonal…
Is Survivorship Bias Making You Feel Bad About Yourself?
Survivorship bias occurs when we only focus on successful outcomes and ignore those things that didn’t make it “to the other side”. It can lead…
The Deeper Benefits of Slowing Down
It isn’t easy to keep up with the pace of life. It can feel like time is running away, and there’s always more to do…