The Rising Tide of Sensitivity: Being Fully Human in a World of Machines


In this week’s Kota, we will think about the part sensitivity plays in our individual and collective potential as human beings. What might the phrase “a rising tide lifts all boats” mean for us? How can we truly accommodate high sensitivity to enhance and improve different areas of life (for everyone)?

For highly sensitive people, healing is often about “allowing wholeness” rather than “finding wholeness”. This is underpinned by accommodation for sensitivity – unconditional acceptance and welcome for those parts that have been placed behind doors and walls, and pushed beneath the surface, because they don’t fit the moulds to which we believe we are supposed to conform.

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Healing and Wholeness

Healing is about integrating what is present into the whole body. Allowing it to rise within rather than pushing it down, denying, or trying to remove it.

When I worked in funeral care, I was regularly reminded of this difference between cure and healing. There is no cure for grief but you will start to heal as you come to terms with the loss alongside the void it leaves behind. You don’t “get over” the loss, but over time it becomes integrated into your story. This hole-ness (the presence of an absence) infuses a new sense of meaning to your whole being.

From A Difference Between Healing and Cure

What does healing mean to you?

Accommodating Sensitivity

Have you ever received the gift of true accommodation? The feeling of welcome and acceptance in someone else’s home. Where your presence is not only tolerated, but celebrated as a contribution to uniqueness of the moment? Needs, preferences, and choices are catered for and gladly embraced with a spirit of collaboration in service of life-enhancing human connection.

It’s a rare and beautiful feeling that can’t be demanded or contrived.

You’ve probably experienced the opposite too, sensing you are an unwanted presence amidst an awkward series of negotiations. Needs, preferences, and choices are judged with eye-rolls and sighs. In the end, you just want to get out of there as soon as possible. If possible.

Accommodations are opportunities and possibilities rather than concessions and limitations. When everyone is able to not only exist but explore their potential, the whole hive benefits. It becomes alive to something new. It also requires time, patience, and good faith.

What does it mean to truly accommodate something or someone?

Can you think of a time you felt accommodated (or a time you felt un-accommodated)?

From Accommodating Sensitivity

Accommodating Ourselves

It can be scary to feel seen (even by ourselves). It might lead us to hide parts of who we are or to downplay our deeper hopes, dreams, and way of seeing the world. We might have created filters, built walls, and developed patterns to avoid looking beneath the surface.

A recent question for the week was:

What are your two primary responses or reactions when someone gives you a positive comment about yourself?

How might this relate to the question of true accommodation? And what are we less accommodating of in ourselves than we might be of others?

From: What Wants To Rise Inside You? A Thought on Power and Healing