Free to Create [Haven Digest]

This month we will be thinking about the relationship we have with our creative inner spirit. Creativity can be a great source of freedom and joy, but it can also be a site of frustration and pain.

Maybe you’ve had your creative spirit trampled down by criticism. Perhaps you’ve felt like an impostor when it comes to stepping into a creative project or pursuit. Maybe you’re in the grip of perfectionism, the fear of failure, or not being good enough.

I hope this month you will have a deep experience of self-acceptance so you can hold your creativity with a spirit of lightness, expansion, and possibility. So we will identify some of the stuff that stops us being free to create in everyday life.

Freedom To Lose

After his quarter final victory, the eventual winner of this year’s World Snooker Championship, Luca Brecel said:

I love winning, but what makes me a dangerous opponent is that I don’t mind losing. I’ve done it often, and it’s never actually that bad.

He embodied this in the way he played and won because of it. It reminded me of our conversations about confidence. When it feels safe to “fail” we can be released from fear about what might happen if things go wrong.

Coming Up

Join us on Monday for our next Live Café session.

Focused time can often feel hard to come by. The Live Cafe Hour is an opportunity to spend 80 minutes “alone together” alongside other members and focus on what matters most.

It’s the perfect opportunity to catch up with those important (but non-urgent) activities. Or receive gentle accountability to focus on that thing you’ve been putting off.

Theme Kota | Sunday 1st October 2023 (6pm UK)

As social beings, humans are wired for belonging. But in a judgemental and critical world, it doesn’t always feel safe to be yourself, especially when you don’t seem to see or experience the world in quite the same way as other people.

We will bring our Haven hive mind to these questions:

  • What does belonging mean to you?
  • What tells you it’s safe to “be yourself”?
  • In what ways are you different around people you feel safe with?
  • What characteristics in other people help you feel safe and connected?

Whether you want to get actively involved in the conversation or quietly observe and absorb, you are so welcome to join us.

Recent Happenings

Book Club – The Courage To Be Disliked

Sunday was our final session looking at The Courage To Be Disliked. It was a nice chilled discussion that helped us bring our journey through the book to a close.

I’ve written my summary takeaways (which I’ve also shared on this week’s Gentle Rebel Podcast). If you’re signed into The Haven you will find replays of the live sessions at the bottom of each post.