Belonging 2021 | You Are Therefore You Belong

October is the month of ‘Belonging’ in The Haven, and we’re kicking off with a three-way conversation between Andy, Lindsay-Celeste, and Kendra on this theme.

We hope you enjoy our exploration of the topic. We’d love to know what resonates with you and what you’d like us to explore more of in the future, or if you’re a Haven member, in our community conversations during October.

Leave a comment below, or drop a reply in the Monthly Theme Group inside the membership.

If you’re not yet a member and would like to try it out, come and join us. We’d love to meet you in there!

In our conversation we discuss:

    • Why we won’t feel a sense of belonging in the outside world if we don’t know what it means to belong to ourselves (and what that actually looks like in practice)
    • The threats to self-belonging and how to distinguish between things that belong with us and things that don’t
    • How each of us approaches the return to self-belonging when we feel disconnected
    • The differences between situations where we feel we should belong, where we want to belong, and where it seems that other people don’t want us to belong
    • What it might mean to accept the truth of universal unconditional belonging – that we belong here on earth because we were born here
    • The importance of finding soft definition around the edges, so we can establish safety and protection in our communities
    • The way in which communities “self-sort” when we are clear about expectations, characteristics, and boundaries of acceptable behaviour within a group
    • The push-pull tension of belonging somewhere and the somewhere belonging to us (e.g. one’s home)
    • How sometimes belonging feels easier when you’re somewhere you don’t naturally fit, and why it can be hard (especially for introverts and HSP’s) to feel like they don’t belong where they ‘ought to’
    • Why we should maybe follow the example of the dude in the hotel lobby…

Over to You

What resonated with you in our conversation? What would you like to explore in more depth? Leave a comment below, or if you’re a full Haven member come and join the conversation in the community.


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